Healing After Narcissistic Abuse

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey of coming back home to yourself — to your body, your truth, and your inner sense of safety. After prolonged emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or control, the nervous system often remains in states of hypervigilance, anxiety, confusion, or collapse. You may find it difficult to trust your instincts, set boundaries, or feel at peace in relationships.

These experiences don’t just live in the mind — they live in the body. The nervous system learns to stay “on” to anticipate threat or abandonment, even long after the danger has passed.

Narcissistic abuse can show up in the body as:

  • Chronic tension or tightness in the chest, throat, or gut

  • A constant sense of walking on eggshells

  • Shallow breathing or a racing heart

  • Overthinking or second-guessing yourself

  • People-pleasing or fawning to maintain peace

  • Feeling disconnected from your body or emotions

  • Trouble sleeping or relaxing

  • Difficulty trusting or feeling safe in connection

Through Somatic Experiencing®, we gently unwind these patterns of survival stored deep within the nervous system. Together, we work to re-establish a felt sense of safety in your body — helping you reclaim your voice, self-worth, and inner authority. As your system learns that it no longer needs to stay in protection mode, you begin to experience greater ease, clarity, and confidence.

Healing from narcissistic abuse is not just about understanding what happened — it’s about re-patterning the body so you can finally feel safe to be you.

Co-Regulating Touch & Reiki for Nervous System Repair

In addition to Somatic Experiencing®, I offer Co-Regulating Touch and Reiki, two profound modalities that help repair the deep ruptures caused by narcissistic abuse. These practices support the nervous system to rewire efficiently and effectively — restoring your capacity for self-regulation, presence, and trust.

After experiences of betrayal or emotional harm, the body often forgets what true safety in connection feels like. Co-Regulating Touch and Reiki help your system relearn how to “just be” instead of staying on alert. They offer a direct experience of calm, allowing the body to feel seen, held, and supported again.

Co-Regulating Touch

Co-Regulating Touch offers gentle, attuned physical contact that communicates safety and care to the nervous system. This modality helps repair the early attachment wounds often intensified by narcissistic abuse. Through steady presence and nurturing touch, your body learns that connection can be safe, predictable, and kind. Over time, you begin to expand your capacity for closeness without fear — restoring your sense of belonging and wholeness.

Reiki

Reiki works at the energetic level to clear patterns of depletion, shame, and energetic enmeshment that often occur in toxic or one-sided relationships. It helps to realign your energy field, reestablish boundaries, and reconnect you to your own life force. As your energy becomes balanced and whole again, your nervous system naturally follows — settling into greater ease, lightness, and sovereignty.